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Being graceful in difficult times

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Some of the happiest people on Earth aren’t always happy. In fact, they all have had their fair share of low moods, problems and disappointments. Often the difference between a person who is happy and someone who is unhappy isn’t how often do they get low, or even how low they drop, but it’s what they do with their low moods and how they relate their feelings.

Most people have it backward. When they are feeling down/low, they get themselves busy in their work. They analyze their low moods, which makes the problem more compound and hard to solve.

When you observe peaceful, relaxed people, you find that when they are feeling good; they are very grateful. They understand that both positive and negative feelings come and go, and that there will come a time when they won’t be feeling so good. To happy people, this is okay; it’s the way of things. They accept the inevitability of passing feelings. So, when they feel angry or depressed, they relate these feelings with wisdom and openness. They don’t fight the bad feelings; they accept their feelings.

Rather than stumbling and fighting against their negative feelings, they are graceful in their acceptance of them. This allows them to come gently out of the negative feeling states into more positive states of mind.

So, the next time you’re feeling bad, instead of panicking, you can be graceful and calm. Know that if you don’t fight your negative feelings and if you are graceful, they will pass away.

Thought of the Day:

“It’s better to be an optimist who is sometimes wrong than a pessimist who is always right.”

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