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Becoming a better listener

 


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Effective listening is more than is avoiding the nasty habit of interrupting others while they are speaking or finishing their sentences. It’s being content to listen to the entire thought of somebody instead of waiting impatiently for your chance to respond.

In some ways, the way we fail to pay attention/listen is symbolic of the way we live. It’s almost our goal to start speaking after the other person stops speaking.

When you become a better listener and slow down your responses, you become a more peaceful person from inside. You will be relieved from the pressure of speaking as soon as the other person stops to speak.

In a conversation, you’ll notice that it is very hard and stressful to keep thinking what the person in front of you will be going to say when you fire back your response. But if you wait for the other person to finish and simply listen to what the person is saying and concentrate on it, you will feel more relaxed and so will the people you are in a conversation with.

Not only will becoming a robust listener make you a more patient person, it will enhance your standard of understanding of the conversation. Your conversation goes smoothly and argument free. You will also improve the relationship with the person you were talking to. Everyone loves to talk to someone who truly listens to what they are saying.

Thought of The Day:

"Listening is an art that requires attention over talent, spirit over ego, others over self."

-Dean Jackson

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